How to make it thicker?

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I feel guilty for mentioning something to my husband about ex-boyfriends a year ago. I hastily told him that the other one was better in bed than the previous one because he had a thicker penis. This of course is not the reason why I broke up with the first one and started living with the second one. There are other reasons. But my husband is now obsessed with that statement of mine. He occasionally jokes at his own expense that he is not thick enough. In fact, it is not so important to me. I enjoy it with him.
But I searched the internet to see if anything could naturally change a penis thickness, just to please him. When I saw this forum, I decided to write because it's always good when you can ask specifically rather than just read the pages. Is that really possible?
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Unfortunately I think you are in a bit of a tricky situation now. There certainly Are things that can naturally increase thickness, both temporarily and permanently. Pumping, manual girth exercises, stretches, wearable bands etc. all can increase girth, but not without investing time and effort into it. Though it is certainly better when your lady is on-board with your routines. But the real problem is how to bring it up to your husband without further implying that he isn't thick enough for you. You don't want him to feel like his size has been such a big issue to you that you've been trying to find ways he can improve it, even though you actually just care about his mental well-being. If you can find non-damaging a way to lead him to the forum, helping to teach ways to improve one's size is a primary goal of this forum.
 
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Unfortunately I think you are in a bit of a tricky situation now..... You don't want him to feel like his size has been such a big issue to you that you've been trying to find ways he can improve it, even though you actually just care about his mental well-being..
Bravo! You understood the crux of my problem.
I'm in a very tricky situation. Sometimes I forget about it, but then his self-esteem drops again. And I feel guilty about it. Reading about all these exercises, I realize that it's necessary for him to be involved in it. But you see how hard it is to do that. Is there still some way for him to get results without finding out?
 

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Yeah it is a tough spot to be in. If you really want to get him into PE, it would be precarious at best trying to lead him to the forum directly. The least damaging way is to get him to think it was his idea to look into PE. But I am not sure how to achieve this optimal outcome. You could go a roundabout way. Introduce a toy to the bedroom as foreplay or something indirect. A simple cock ring is a pretty common addition to any bedroom, but has the benefit of pushing his thickness to the max while wearing it. You don't want him to think you got it to make him bigger, but you could simply say you thought the idea of seeing him wearing one was a turn-on and wanted to see him in one. He could use it and realize that his thickness can be altered. Pumps are less common, but there are still lots of women who like to use one on their partners during foreplay. That would be trickier to implement smoothly as it is quite on the nose... You could go a more direct route and the next time he makes a joke at his own expense you could mention that if he doesn't like his size he could always try and change it and there are ways you've heard of, but you would want to reassure him that you are happy with how he is now and that it gets the job done for you. It's much more direct, so more risky. There have to be better ways of going about it, but whatever the way you go about it, the real point would be to introduce him to the idea that his thickness can be changed. He has the driving motivation already. Just a little bit of curious browsing around will usually lead to finding this site or something similar, the concept just needs to be in place in his mind.

It seems to me the best thing to do would be to try to help his self-esteem yourself in a similar way that it was injured. How you see him, or how he thinks you see him, is affected by the things you say or how you behave. Just as a slight oversight brought him negative feelings of self-competency, affirmations that you desire him and that when you have him you are satisfied can uplift how he thinks you see him. He thinks that he isn't enough for you and you're just trying not to hurt his feelings about it - Show him that he is enough, and communicate that he satisfies you. A simple positive comment about his performance or how good he left you feeling can leave him feeling mighty good about himself...
 
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Thanks a lot for the extensive answer! You gave me good suggestions. What I like the most is the idea of waiting for the moment when he jokes at his own expense and then carelessly mentioning the idea of increasing the thickness. Regarding the ring, I didn't think about it. But it can also be considered. I thought about the possibility of jelqing him without telling him what it is. "Only a kind of fun" . But as we understand each other, care must be taken that everything seems spontaneous in order to prevent him to think that I'm not happy with him.
 
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I think that your compassion for him at this point and your regret for ever bringing it up is admirable. At the same time, I'm sensing that you, yourself, would actually prefer him to be thicker. That's what I'm picking up but tell me if I'm wrong about that. It's not in judgement - I just think that it's important to understand whether your own motivation is 100% about him or perhaps also in some part to please yourself as well.
 

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I think that your compassion for him at this point and your regret for ever bringing it up is admirable. At the same time, I'm sensing that you, yourself, would actually prefer him to be thicker. That's what I'm picking up but tell me if I'm wrong about that. It's not in judgement - I just think that it's important to understand whether your own motivation is 100% about him or perhaps also in some part to please yourself as well.

You looked back at what I said about my ex-boyfriends and about thickness. It's true that there is a difference in feeling, but my main goal is to stop him being dissatisfied. It is a negative energy and badly affects our intercourse and in general. It causes me sometimes pity and sometimes even a little anger.
 

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Welcome Sonia, I hope you were able to make him believe you had a list of reasons, not just one. Tell him that to pick out 'just one' of your reasons, is putting the both of you, I said both, at a terrible disadvantage and at a point of trouble for the relationship.

Its just not fair to either of you.

Good luck Sonia.:)
 

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Welcome Sonia, I hope you were able to make him believe you had a list of reasons, not just one. Tell him that to pick out 'just one' of your reasons, is putting the both of you, I said both, at a terrible disadvantage and at a point of trouble for the relationship.

Its just not fair to either of you.

Good luck Sonia.:)

I hope I'll succeed in my intention.
Thank you!
 
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Just to clarify, [if I'm reading your post correctly] you didn't make a direct comment about your husband's thickness. If the statement was in reference of comparing one man with another, then as long as you weren't talking about your husband there should be no issue?
 

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Just to clarify, [if I'm reading your post correctly] you didn't make a direct comment about your husband's thickness. If the statement was in reference of comparing one man with another, then as long as you weren't talking about your husband there should be no issue?

Yes, but he is obsessed with my short and accidental statement that I liked that thickness with another guy. And he later asked me what his penis was like compared to theirs. I didn't want to tell him specifically, but he realized that his penis wasn't as thick as the one mentioned.
 

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Remember this site is called "The Biohacker". Simply looking for health-oriented sites could easily bring him here with some careful nudging.
 

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Yes, but he is obsessed with my short and accidental statement that I liked that thickness with another guy. And he later asked me what his penis was like compared to theirs. I didn't want to tell him specifically, but he realized that his penis wasn't as thick as the one mentioned.

Ouch! You just touched (indirectly) on what is commonly the most sensitive topic/concern for a man. Even if you didn't make the statement about him directly, I can easily see how I would have similarly internalized the lack of praise or positive comment about my equipment. You are in a proverbial pickle (pun intended) as you seem to already know. If I were to tell my wife that a previous girlfriend was really good in bed and didn't say anything about her skillz, I would expect the same disappointment/frustration from her.

Free advice (worth what you pay for it). The next time he does the self-deprecating thing, you need to quickly cut that off and praise him very clearly and succinctly. Then follow that up, with some of the suggestions here (e.g. I love what you bring to the bedroom, but if you aren't happy, and I want you to be happy, is it even possible to increase the size .......) and let the discussion grow from that (again, pun intended). Maybe he'll stumble upon this site (or others) but I would not mention this site or any site or method by name, because I personally would see through that and further fall into despair. And by all means, don't try to Jelq him as a hidden technique to increase girth. It isn't that terribly enjoyable (as a normal handjob) and doing it every once in a while probably won't have much effect, while arousing (pun intended AGAIN) his suspicion as to what you were doing and why you keep doing it.
 

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Yes, but he is obsessed with my short and accidental statement that I liked that thickness with another guy. And he later asked me what his penis was like compared to theirs. I didn't want to tell him specifically, but he realized that his penis wasn't as thick as the one mentioned.

This is a difficult situation. No one likes to hear a current partner or spouse talk about how much they like a previous sexual partner's attributes. This needs to be understood for future reference. Even if there's no reference of comparison, this type of thing almost never goes well.

If your telling him his penis makes you happy doesn't help, you'll need to see what you can do to work this issue out. This might even mean couple's therapy- though it's hoped both of you can work through your issue as efficiently as possible.
 
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Ouch! You just touched (indirectly) on what is commonly the most sensitive topic/concern for a man. Even if you didn't make the statement about him directly, I can easily see how I would have similarly internalized the lack of praise or positive comment about my equipment. You are in a proverbial pickle (pun intended) as you seem to already know. If I were to tell my wife that a previous girlfriend was really good in bed and didn't say anything about her skillz, I would expect the same disappointment/frustration from her.

Free advice (worth what you pay for it). The next time he does the self-deprecating thing, you need to quickly cut that off and praise him very clearly and succinctly. Then follow that up, with some of the suggestions here (e.g. I love what you bring to the bedroom, but if you aren't happy, and I want you to be happy, is it even possible to increase the size .......) and let the discussion grow from that (again, pun intended). Maybe he'll stumble upon this site (or others) but I would not mention this site or any site or method by name, because I personally would see through that and further fall into despair. And by all means, don't try to Jelq him as a hidden technique to increase girth. It isn't that terribly enjoyable (as a normal handjob) and doing it every once in a while probably won't have much effect, while arousing (pun intended AGAIN) his suspicion as to what you were doing and why you keep doing it.

I don't like to talk about them (exes). But then I accidentally mentioned it. He asked me was it better with the first or the second one. If I had known, I wouldn't have answered. And of course, I praise my husband and I often tell him that it was very good because I often really think so. I am similar to him in one thing. I joke at my own expense because I don't have big breasts and I often ask him what he thinks about them. Maybe I bore him as well Lol.
So his penis just isn't thick. He must either accept it or make it thicker. Just to stop joking mentioning surgery.
 

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This is a difficult situation. No one likes to hear a current partner or spouse talk about how much they like a previous sexual partner's attributes. This needs to be understood for future reference. Even if there's no reference of comparison, this type of thing almost never goes well.

If your telling him his penis makes you happy doesn't help, you'll need to see what you can do to work this issue out. This might even mean couple's therapy- though it's hoped both of you can work through your issue as efficiently as possible.

I know I was wrong to say that. Although in that situation I compared the other two with each other. I didn't compare him with them.
Maybe you're right. Maybe we need as a couple to ask for help through the psychotherapy.
But I'm sure he would be overjoyed if he succeeded in doing so as many people here say they have succeeded. This is such i pity he didn't find this site but me.
 
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I know I was wrong to say that. Although in that situation I compared the other two with each other. I didn't compare him with them.
Maybe you're right. Maybe we need as a couple to ask for help through the psychotherapy.
But I'm sure he would be overjoyed if he succeeded in doing so as many people here say they have succeeded. This is such i pity he didn't find this site but me.

Surely you didn't do it with the intent to harm, but some are extremely sensitive about this subject. If you push the issue it may worsen the problem. so please take care in how you broach the subject of this site or male enhancement training in general.