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Hi guys,

First I would like to thank you all for all the helpful info and the time and dedication some of you guys have spent here helping others. As you may imagine I came across this site because I'm having problems with my penis. I'm 27 years old and have always enjoyed a healthy and above average sexual life. I was able to last about 25minutes minimum during each session and have always been praised for it. However, during the last few months I started noticing that I wasn't able to last as long as usual.

I have been masturbating since I was about 14 years old. I did it once everyday and sometimes even more. I used to have sex and when I got home I would masturbate again and I never had a single problem getting erections or with premature ejaculation. Also I watch porn and masturbate for about 3-4 years ago. About 3 months I was having sex with my neighbor(which has been my sexual partner for about a year ago) and I started coming too quick. I freaked out, because I have never experienced something like this. 2 months later I had sex with a friend and as soon as I was inside her I blew up. I could not believe it, I didn't last even a minute. I had never experienced this and I freaked out. After about 10-15 minutes I got an erection and had long lasting sex with her and had some good sex with her about 3 times more. She came to visit a month later and during a 1 week period we had sex about 10 times and only once or twice I came quicker than I wanted and during the last sessions my erection wasn't as hard as it had always been.

Even tho, I had good sex for 8 out of 10 sessions I still couldn't get that out of my mind. I decided to have sex again with my neighbor just to get the thought out of my head and to prove its only psychological. However, I couldn't. I didn't even get strong enough erection. This is killing me... I masturbate and I get a normal erection, but sometimes I come much quicker than usual. I'm reading and learning as much as I can from you guys, but I would like to know if there is any specific advice you guys can give on my situation.

I watch porn and masturbate on a daily basis. I did this to get pleasure obviously, but I also did it because I thought that it was helping me to last longer in bed and it gave me ideas as to what to do in bed. Do you guys think if I stop and give it a rest, I will get back to normal?

Thanks in advance and sorry for the long read.
 

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8 out of 10 isn't too bad but yes stop or at least cut back on the porn/masturbation. From what you say you should have no problem getting laid, leave it at that and you should see some improvement plus it will make the next time even better.
 

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8 out of 10 isn't too bad but yes stop or at least cut back on the porn/masturbation. From what you say you should have no problem getting laid, leave it at that and you should see some improvement plus it will make the next time even better.

Thanks a lot for the quick response! About getting laid, well I'm a bit scared of engaging in sex. Yesterday I got a call for it and I had to come up with an excuse because I was scared to mess up with this girl, because it was going to be our first time together :(.

Last time I masturbated was today. I was trying to edge, by watching porn. I did it early in the morning for about 20 minutes without ejaculating. Later in the evening I tried it again with some lube and it was more difficult but I did with success for about 12 minutes. Then I switched to another video and couldn't even hold it for a minute :(.

I'll be giving it a rest, but I would like to start doing edging and from there progress to other exercises. How much time do you recommend I should wait until I start edging? Should I wait until Monday? That would make about 3 days of rest. I would then start edging about 3 times a week(monday, wensday and friday) with the weekends of. Does this sound any good?

Thanks again.
 

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Update:

Guess what, I just had sex with my neighbor... I couldn't hold it for more than 5 minutes with a condom :(. I started foreplay really wanting to have sex and trying not to think of this. However as I got prepared I started to get concerned. During the act I was breathing and I made sure I wasn't clenching my PC muscle... But I couldn't do anything :(. I started with her on top and as soon as I felt I was going to blow I got her off me and switched to missionary. Did a couple of thrusts and I had to take it out, waited a couple of seconds got it back in, and a couple of thrusts later I felt the urge again and decided it wasn't worth the fight :(. I'm starting to get desperate :(.
 

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First try getting the negativity out of your head. If you think you're gonna suck then your gonna suck. My advice, search the forums there are several threads that address each issue you have.

About your edging, since you're used to jacking off every day you could just jump right into it. Try other forms of stimulation, maybe instead of having sex with your new...friend, you could suggest something like mutual masturbation. Some members try reading stories or switching to pics to get away from movies. A lot of members will also edge after they finish their workout.