I feel so depressed and inadequate

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I apologise for what will sound like emotional self pity, but these are my sincere feelings.

No matter what the stats say, my penis is small to me. 6.2 inches long with a 5.2 girth does not make the cut, as far as partners are involved. I feel so tiny, particularly when I look in the mirror. My stomach is rather large, and so I actually have to resort to looking in the mirror just to see my tiny flaccid cock. And I can only attain my erection on a good day, most of the time it's a lot smaller. I have a feeling anxiety and stress has something to do with that.

The size of my limp penis humiliates me, to no end. I know that I won't be able to please any partner, no matter I do. I know you can try and console me with sayings alluding to how I will eventually get bigger, provided I do the exercises properly, but I know I won't see any increases, I just know. I'm not being pessimistic, but rather a realist.

I've embarked upon a gym program, which will hopefully reduce my weight and fat pad, but I doubt that I will see much increases. Nothing really works for me.

I've stopped masturbating for a few days now, and have encountered some symptoms that make me even more depressed. My flaccid state has shrunken and it feels really hard and rubbery. I can't sleep very well either, and often have dreams of being cuckolded and forced to watch my hypothetical partner get screwed by a much bigger dick. Forums like topix and yahoo discuss scenarios like this, all the time, and it emphasises how pathetic I actually am.

I have the strong feeling that I am destined for a life of cuckoldry, given that my penis will stay small. I so desperately want a bigger penis, but I know that I will never have one.



Throughout my school career, I've always been perceived as having a small penis. In the locker rooms, my bulge would be so much smaller than everyone else's, which created greater feelings of humiliation. Being half Asian doesn't help either, and I most definitely got the Asian side of my genes, relating to the trouser department. My dad, on the other hand, has a really girthy one, even when flaccid. This makes me even more upset. Why can I not have a normal life? I hate living like this, but there's nothing I can do about it.
 
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Okay so right off the bat any talk of knives or cutting will get you booted out of here real quit so why not go back and edit your post, takeout the stupid stuff, and then maybe we'll talk!
 

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Okay so right off the bat any talk of knives or cutting will get you booted out of here real quit so why not go back and edit your post, takeout the stupid stuff, and then maybe we'll talk!
Sorry, I was just trying to be more candid.
 

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You need to check out measurection.com, a forum set up to help guys who perceive their dicks as inadequate.
 

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You need to check out measurection.com, a forum set up to help guys who perceive their dicks as inadequate.
But I also want to increase it anyway- this forum's great.
 

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haha really man? do you place your value of this whole being. mind, body, soul, just in one spot? want to be cheered a bit? listen to my measurements then. 5 inches length 4 inches girth mathafakaz! hahaha. how is that for a cheetos stick...? XD
 

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With that attitude you won't please any woman, you may well depress them, when I first started having sex, I believed I was very small, yeah I did dwell on it and beat myself up for way too long, but I resolved not to let that stop me pleasing a woman.

I decided to work on performing eye crossing oral on them, which always did the trick! Anything else they get is really a bonus. No woman I have ever been with has been all that bothered by penetration, so why all the doom and gloom? Do you have fingers?? Are your fingers bigger than your penis??? I have made lots of ladies smile with just my fingers, so logically they should enjoy the penis too!

Also being mixed race is actually pretty cool, I'm pretty plain in comparison, but it's never stopped me! People of mixed race are generally very attractive! You need to put this crap behind you brother, it's no way to live and self pity is unattractive to the ladies you desire to please.

You need to start taking positive steps toward the future you want for yourself, do your routine and start being positive, its absolutely necessary for self improvement!

Also if you are unhappy with your weight do something about it, start a log and record both PE and your exercise progress in it, you will receive nothing but encouragement from me and everyone else here!

Bear in mind there are plenty of guys who are starting PE below your measurements now, who have made their ladies very happy!

If you think you can, you can! If you think you can't, you can't! Either way your right!!!

Stay strong bro, don't give in to these negative feelings!
 
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So when do I get to create a pity party thread? :eek:
 

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With that attitude you won't please any woman, you may well depress them, when I first started having sex, I believed I was very small, yeah I did dwell on it and beat myself up for way too long, but I resolved not to let that stop me pleasing a woman.

Also being mixed race is actually pretty cool, I'm pretty plain in comparison, but it's never stopped me! People of mixed race are generally very attractive! You need to put this crap behind you brother, it's no way to live and self pity is unattractive to the ladies you desire to please.

You need to start taking positive steps toward the future you want for yourself, do your routine and start being positive, its absolutely necessary for self improvement!

Also if you are unhappy with your weight do something about it, start a log and record both PE and your exercise progress in it, you will receive nothing but encouragement from me and everyone else here!

Bear in mind there are plenty of guys who are starting PE below your measurements now, who have made their ladies very happy!

If you think you can, you can! If you think you can't, you can't! Either way your right!!!

Stay strong bro, don't give in to these negative feelings!

Thanks for your reassuring words, and I really appreciate your sentiments. My feelings of inadequacy should stop, and I know, but it's so hard to get rid of them. Especially given the amount of porn circulated. I just can't stop having these nightmares of being cuckolded, but I need to stop. Pronto!

As I've said, I'm going to join a gym tomorrow. I'm 5 stone overweight, and do you think this is having an impact upon my penis size? I only measured my FUPA after I had a full erection, so I was unable to ascertain what my NPBL :( I can teel you that my FUPA is around 1.8-2 inches thick, depending on where I grab it, but I don't think it has that much impact. Do you think I should work on losing fat first, then engaging in PE?
Being mixed is not that wonderful. Though I do like Asian women, they're the only ones to ever display an interest in me, but I imagine when they see my penis flaccid, they'll be disappointed.
 

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What on porn world is cuckolded???
 

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When a women gets pounded by a bigger penis, usually belonging to a black man, whilst her husband watches/

You seriously need to quit letting porn brainwash you brother; it's not the real world!
 

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people who will get dissapointed by a body part of yours and not by the way you talk, think and behave to others are people you should keep a distance from in the first place. and second, try not to be prejudiced about anything cause you transfer that prejudice to the others. try not to think at all what the ohters will think. probably they wont thing NOTHING. and if they do? so fn what? you have your health, you can walk, see, smell, talk. have some grattitude. you are not in a coma or sth. and if you concentrate your whole value to a body part of yours thats what you gonna be for the others and that would be the criteria by which you'll be judged. a penis with arms and legs. is that what you wanna diminish yourself into...?
 

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...and that's coming from a bonified(?) porn addict.
 

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You seriously need to quit letting porn brainwash you brother; it's not the real world!
It's amateur pornography though. I really want to grow, but these sort of things aren't helping.
 

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I think you should do both at the same time! Any exercise you undertake will have an indirect positive effect on any PE, better cardio = better oxygen/nutrient rich blood to your penis!

Since Asian women are taking an interest in you, take an interest back, it really is only you that is standing in your way. No Asian women ever have taken an interest in me, but then I'm short pale and ginger:).

I'm sure you would make any woman happy, provided you stop thinking with your negative head, you seem very expressive, articulate and you have a better grasp of the English language than I and I'm English (I didn't understand all the words in your OP), so there is no need to sell yourself short - you have much to offer!

Also don't worry about NBPEL, just take a BPEL measurement, since it's not what a lady can see that matters but what she can feel!

Quit watching porn too! It's not doing you any favours!
 

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grow a pair. do you seek baby boy hair stroking pitty here? a man should fight his inhibitions and insecurities and replace them with inner virtues. i've seen handicap old men with more appreciation of life than you.
 

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I think you should do both at the same time! Any exercise you undertake will have an indirect positive effect on any PE, better cardio = better oxygen/nutrient rich blood to your penis!

Since Asian women are taking an interest in you, take an interest back, it really is only you that is standing in your way. No Asian women ever have taken an interest in me, but then I'm short pale and ginger:).

I'm sure you would make any woman happy, provided you stop thinking with your negative head, you seem very expressive, articulate and you have a better grasp of the English language than I and I'm English (I didn't understand all the words in your OP), so there is no need to sell yourself short - you have much to offer!

Also don't worry about NBPEL, just take a BPEL measurement, since it's not what a lady can see that matters but what she can feel!

Quit watching porn too! It's not doing you any favours!
From that angle, that makes sense. I assume it's natural for the flaccid to shrink after exercise- that's what I've encountered. I'll try that 90 days routine soon, but I need to get my penis back to normal erect size again, plus I'm also doing nofap :/

I do like Asian women, but I also swing the other way ( if you catch my drift). I'm only 18, but in the gay/bisexual community, there are tons of cock hounds ( male size queens)! For a mixed kid, I may be slightly above average, but for most I would be seen as tiny, and I'm serious. 7 inches or more seems to be the norm, which is what I'm aiming for.

But isn't a BPL the size of my penis after weight loss? I always assumed that was the case.

Porn is a definite no-no, as well as forums like topix and such.
 

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by the way u ignored all my posts u proved that you are an imature clueless biased little Kant. and you just confirmed when you told your age. haha im sure these a few cunning people that make billions out of people's insecurities and fears are surfing through websites like this, read the content of some posts and laugh their asses off... haha what a shallow life one lives if he depends its worth by the amount of gratification he thinks he takes through his sexuality...
 
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Hey Govpol,

Well I think your measurements are fine, I think i'm pretty close to your size down there but i'm lean. Still I use to percieved mine to be small and then I realised after messing around with ED drugs the EQ is way more important for me. Even if you got bigger you need the EQ to match so being healthy is a good place to start.
Like burtybasset said do both, why not right, you're only going to increase your confidence by dropping weight and increasing your penis size.
Um porn is bad bro... just stop it! The mention of a specific genre of porn giving you nightmares is sad. You're worrying about something that 1: hasn't happened 2: probably never will happen 3: is diminishing your own self confidence.
Focus on what you can change, not can't. Easy as that, don't believe me?
Well join the gym, do your PE religously (don't pull your dick off going too hard) and think POSITIVE!
Pretty sure in a couple of months you'll have changed your tune :) Good luck man

p.s Have you ever actually had a girlfriend or a sexual partner give negative feedback?
 
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