Inner Demons: When it’s All in Your Head (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

The following is a chapter taken from the book: The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement.

The top cause of impotence today is due to performance anxiety or fear. There are many ways in which fears can originate. These include: inexperience, self-loathing, pressure from a partner, or even a partial physical cause which contributes to the equation.

Why does this seem to be such a growing epidemic- especially among younger men?

According to self-reports, most men have experienced some form of performance anxiety in their lives. How you handle incidents of erectile dysfunction can have a very huge impact on whether or not it sticks around.

One huge contributor of ED among younger men comes from unrealistic expectations obtained by watching porn.  Not only will most men be intimidated by the fantastic dimensions observed in many porn films, but the orchestrated reactions that become expected from these films also interferes with normal expectations.

Another aspect of ED caused by porn use involves detraining. This is discussed in much greater details further in this publication under the section titled “The Detraining Effect – Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence,” but to summarize here, it’s when you become so accustomed to being an inactive participant in masturbating to porn, such that when real emotions and expectations are encountered (as in a real live sexual scenario), anxiety sets in.

The simplest answer to this is, when the sexual response is replaced by anxiety (or something intensely distracting to arousal), the penis isn’t allowed to function in an unencumbered fashion. The use of direct will in attempting to force an erection often has the opposite results. What becomes necessary in scenarios like this is getting to the root cause of the issue. Anxiety itself is merely a symptom of this.

In most cases, psychological ED is very temporary and has an ephemeral quality. In most cases, a man will shake this off- or if he’s generally very secure with himself, he may learn to laugh it off.

It’s usually when one strings together several worsening episodes does the situation become chronic and in need of professional treatment.

The Ultimate Guide to Male Enhancement

The secret to making your brain work better

Want to improve your cognitive function? Then you’ll need to get a handle on your supplements ‘stack’

Tiffanie Darke March 29 2022

This article is a repost which originally appeared on Financial Times Magazine

Edited for content.

Our Takeaways:

· Supplements can be used to enhance brain function

· Nootropics can yield benefits without the side effects of more commonly used substances, like caffeine

· Foods like eggs which are high in Choline and phospholipids are good for brain health and function

“I take lion’s mane with a daily microdose of psychedelic, and B6 to switch on the brain and get more ideas,” says writer Catherine Frenette, of the effects of her supplements regime. “I did it all through writing my latest book: I had a short deadline and needed to stay at my desk. It absolutely worked. Without doubt, I’m working better.”

Tired, unfocused brain in need of a boost? The traditional recourse – coffee – is, it turns out, very pre-pandemic. A stimulant made for 2019’s office-worker world, when we were all just striving to “keep up”, it’s a short-term fix that burns through your adrenal reserves and leaves you, ultimately, depleted. Nowadays, that’s not good enough. Enter the latest nootropics – cognitive enhancers that will take users up and up, and could support brain function and health in the long term.

Unlike coffee, these new nootropics, or smart drugs, nourish the brain without cashing in on its energy reserves. The brain is the body’s most hungry organ, consuming 20 per cent of our energy, so it is vital that it is well fed. Stimulants such as coffee, Adderall or “study drug” Modafinil operate by robbing Peter to pay Paul: increasing dopamine while simultaneously depleting reserves.

“We think it’s normal to be tired and forget things. That’s not normal. We should be feeling better”
Michelle Gundry, clinician nurse

There is much debate about which nootropics to take, how to take them – and how much to take. In online forums, the nootropic hive mind bandies about options that include amino acids like L-theanine and glutamine, the salt magnesium threonate, nutrients citicoline and phosphatidylserine, adaptogenic herbs such as rhodiola and Bacopa, or the ubiquitously trending cordyceps.

“Everybody wants to know about brain biohacking right now,” reports Dr Tamsin Lewis, founder of Wellgevity, a personalised preventative healthcare service. “Everything starts with the brain. If you can change your neurochemistry you move differently, you interact differently, the whole filter to your day changes.” Lewis, who began trying nootropics following a head injury, believes plenty of improvement can be gained, but counsels: “There’s no one-size-fits-all – everyone’s baseline function is different.” She also cautions that some supplements are not dosed correctly or do not include their ingredients in a bioavailable form – it’s important to look for clarity when it comes to dosages.

Lewis recommends to her patients personalised blends of intravenous ingredients, including B vitamin complex and alpha lipoic acid. She says the latter is “a great enhancer of mitochondrial function, naturally increasing levels of glutathione [an amino acid involved in cell repair]. It can make your brain feel very clear for a good few weeks.”

Another compelling ingredient is Cognizin, a version of choline, which is a compound derived from food, particularly eggs. It promotes the production of phospholipids, which make up the membranes of our neural cells. Studies of Cognizin demonstrate up to a 25 per cent increase in attention, memory and focus in patients versus a placebo. It is an ingredient available in brain-boosting supplements from Qualia to Mind Lab Pro. Julian Lee, CEO of green tech business Binding Solutions, began taking Cognizin as one of the ingredients in the super-supplement Lyma. “I have remarkably better energy and focus during the day,” he reports. “Things have really shifted. I’m 50 and in very good health and spirits – I feel much younger than my age. Mentally, clear as a whistle.”

“If you can change your neurochemistry you move differently, you interact differently, the whole filter to your day changes”
Dr Tamsin Lewis, founder of Wellgevity

Over at Matt Roberts Evolution in Mayfair, where longevity doctors, physiotherapists and microdosing and psychedelic experts operate in tandem, a 60-something client is emerging from an intravenous glutathione infusion to treat her “brain fog”. “Glutathione cleans out her cells,” explains clinician nurse Michelle Gundry. “We think it’s normal to be tired and forget things. That’s not normal. We should be feeling better.” Matt Roberts Evolution also has coffee on the menu, but with a difference: “Mushroom coffee,” confirms Roberts, “made with cordyceps to give you the kick you need without the comedown.”

Medicinal mushrooms such as lion’s mane show some evidence of supporting neural health and cognition. Roberts recommends magnesium threonate for sleep (good sleep is essential for brain recovery and memory) and the supplement NAD, which is essentially niacin (a vitamin B3 extract), or its more hardcore sister, NMN. NAD may increase human-growth hormone response and therefore the ability of the body’s cells to regenerate. “Watch how you take NMN, though,” he says, “as it needs to be attached to a fat molecule to be absorbable.” Like almost everyone else I spoke to, Roberts cites gut health – in the form of a diet rich in plants and fermented foods – as a key element in the quest to improve brain function and adaptability.

Neuroplasticity is also on the mind of Clinique La Prairie, the Swiss health and beauty brand, which declares it a fundamental aspect of healthy ageing. Cognition, says Professor Bogdan Draganski, a neuroscientist at the University Hospital of Lausanne and a member of CLP’s scientific committee, is a key target for biohackers – or “neurohackers”, as he calls them. Last year, Clinique La Prairie came out with its own health supplement range, Holistic Health. It has been formulated with the patented nootropic Cognivia, which showed a nine per cent increase in numeric working memory.

Much of the interest in neurohacking is fuelled by the work of key professors at Stanford, Harvard and Yale. Neuroscience professor Andrew Huberman at Stanford School of Medicine is one such guru, as is Harvard professor of genetics David Sinclair. Both publish their work daily on social media and have amassed huge followings. Sinclair believes it’s possible not only for us to halt cellular decline but to reverse it. Huberman recommends easy hacks such as 30 minutes of sunlight every morning to set the circadian rhythm and “put you in control of your nervous system”.

Huberman also likes to publish his “stack”, which is how wellness nerds refer to their supplement regime. On a recent podcast he listed his latest, which included eating foods that are rich in omega-3s and/or supplementing with omega-3s to get 2-3g of the fatty acid EPA per day; phosphatidylserine, a lipid-like compound abundant in meat and fish; choline, which helps in modulating brain circuits; and creatine – a supplement the fitness-obsessed use to bulk up, “but which is good fuel for the brain – at least 5g a day”, he said.

“The science is changing all the time,” says James Heagney, gym director of KX health club in South Kensington, where Chelsea’s most ambitious wellness disciples go for workouts. “We follow the research to choose not just the nutrients gaining in popularity but those that have scientific backing.”

Heagney is currently looking at “dopaminergic supplements for focus and concentration, the amino acid tyrosine to improve alertness, and adaptogens like gingko and holy basil”. As a 4am riser, and with two young children to wrangle, Heagney is laser-focused on his own “stack”. “Increased performance and cognition is where it’s at,” he says. “Brain function is everything in the body.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Epiphany Moments, Targeting/Maintaining Erection Levels, and Adjusting The Jelq For Length or Girth: Ask The Experts

Epiphany Moments, Targeting/Maintaining Erection Levels, and Adjusting The Jelq For Length or Girth: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about epiphany moments, targeting and maintaining specific erection levels, and adjusting the jelq.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Big Al

 

Q. I was wondering if any other members have experienced emotional breakthroughs with their training. Not so much about size but about confidence. Maybe it’s because I’m older, but I recently have hit a place in my life where I’m beyond caring about whether or not I’m good enough for someone. I’m doing this for ME, and if someone likes it then great! If not, the loss is theirs. It’s funny but when I embraced this viewpoint I feel like a weight has been lifted, and sex is actually fun again!

Al: Few things are as satisfying as observing someone having an epiphany moment! A person can come to the realization that the thing they feared was a creation of their own minds. It can be a step closer to learning how to put the ego in its place.

Emotional Visualizations are good for this, but true self-examination is necessary for this to be effective.

Q. I’m having a hard time keeping a 70% erection as instructed for my Squeezes. As soon as I start, my erection slowly declines after several reps and I need to stop to get the erection back. How do I counter this?

Al: Let’s say you’re targeting 70% average for Squeezes. You’ll induce an 80% erection then start the exercise- and continue it until you’re erection drops to 60%. This will give you a good range to work through and that 70% average.

Q. You mention altering the jelq exercise to target more length or more girth. So if I use a lower erection and less lube, it targets length, and more lube and erection targets girth? Is this so?

Al: Regarding the jelq: Correct on both counts. With less lube and erection, the exercise becomes more of a sliding stretch/length movement; whereas with more of an erection and lube it becomes more of a compression/girth movement.

With the higher erection/more lube variant, you’ll also want to slow donw the cadence for each rep slightly.

 

 

What Your Hips Can Tell You About Your Emotions

The Powerful Connection Between Your Hips and Your Emotions

Medically reviewed by Joslyn Jelinek, LCSW — Written by Julianne Ishler on June 17, 2021

This article is a repost which originally appeared on Healthline

Edited for content

Our Takeaways:

· Hip tightness can lead to pelvic floor disorders

· The core muscle often implicated in hip misalignment is the psoas group deep within the core

· Poor posture can lead to emotional stress and fatigue

Perhaps you’ve heard your yoga teacher refer to the hips as the body’s emotional junk drawer.

While folded over in pigeon pose, you may have wondered if there’s any truth to this statement.

It turns out, the answer is pretty incredible.

To get the link between the hips and emotions, understanding the mind-body connection is key.

When you’re stressed, your emotional and physical health can both suffer. People with trauma or other mental health conditions like anxiety and depression often experience physical symptoms as well.

Through it all, there may just be a common link: the hips.

Of course, each body is different. Where one person holds stress in their body may not be exactly the same for another.

However, neuroscience and somatics point to the hips as a potential storage vessel of emotions. They also offer a window into emotional healing. Here’s how.

Getting to know your hips

To look at how the hips can store emotions, it’s important to first understand their function and anatomy.

The hip is the area on each side of the pelvis. The joint itself is one of the largest and most unique joints in the human body, responsible for bearing weight, stabilizing the core, and moving the upper leg.

The tighter your hips are, the less mobility your body has. This can result in pain and hinder daily activities like walking and climbing stairs. Tight hips can also cause an anterior tilt of the pelvis which results in poor posture and misalignment of the head and neck.

This goes to show how important the hips are when it comes to how the entire body functions.

The big story within the hips revolves around the iliopsoas muscle— a deep muscle group located toward the front of the inner hip.

The psoas is the deepest support of our core, according to Martha Eddy, a leading somatic educator, author, and founder of Dynamic Embodiment.

“The pelvis is full of our creative, reproductive organs and contains the centrally located psoas muscle that connects the upper and lower body (the breath and diaphragm to the legs) making the core of our body important both physically and emotionally,” Eddy says.

Many types of pain can be linked to a dormant or tight psoas muscle, especially because it stabilizes the spine and affects posture. In this case, your lumbar spine may lose its natural arch by becoming overly flattened or overly curved.

According to a 2021 study, prolonged sitting is one of the main causes of limited hip extension and the associated pain and discomfort.

In fact, poor posture is linked to depression, fatigue, stress, and headaches.

Stress and the body

Here’s the interesting part: Nestled into the psoas are the kidneys, responsible for filtering toxins in the body, as well as the adrenal glands, which control the fight, flight, or freeze response.

This is how we begin to understand where emotions come into the picture.

The fight, flight, or freeze response is your body’s natural reaction to perceived danger. When you’re under any kind of mental or emotional stress, your psoas muscle responds by tightening.

Eddy notes that even after the stress is gone, the tension may still linger in the body and hip area, contributing to things like headaches and lower back pain.

“When someone is really traumatized, certainly the hips are an area that’s holding it,” Eddy says. “That gut pain and fear make you curl up and hide, so you’re going to be contracted.”

How emotions get stored

Neuroscience also offers a look at how emotions become stored in the body.

In 1985, neuroscientist Candace Pert found Source that small proteins known as neuropeptides activate the circuits linked to emotions.

She famously stated that “your body is your subconscious mind,” and that the physical body can change depending on what we’re feeling.

Pert’s research suggests that emotions are electrochemical signals that carry emotional messages throughout the body. They are then expressed, experienced, and stored within the body and mind.

This can influence activity in the brain and change the cell to either have a positive or negative effect on the body.

Pert’s work proposes that each cell carries a kind of consciousness that stores memories and emotional states.

Current research supports this as well.

A 2021 study noted that cell consciousness can be explained by the presence of nano brains and that cells are “highly sensitive” and respond to sensory stimuli as well as internal and extracellular electromagnetic fields.

The researchers concluded that eukaryotic cells, or the cells that make up plants, animals, fungi, and single-celled organisms, are “cognitive and intentional.”

The link between the emotions and the hips

Because of this research, we can begin to understand the relationship between the emotions and the body.

According to a 2019 study, certain emotions are associated with specific areas of the body. Interestingly, these correlations are universal across cultures and sex assigned at birth.

A 2017 study noted that emotions are associated with specific organs in East Asian medicine. The study also noted that East Asian medicine uses “somatic” language when referring to emotional disorders, while Western medicine prefers “neural” language.

This implies that both lenses may be useful in understanding emotional health.

Considering the psoas link to the fight or flight response, it’s understandable that stress might get “trapped” there.

Furthermore, the hip region is associated with the sacral chakra, an energetic center believed by some to house creative energy and sexuality. It’s also linked to how you relate to your emotions and the emotions of others.

A blocked sacral chakra is said to lead to emotional instability as well as reductions in pleasure. When the hips are tight and contracted, it’s possible that sacral energy that’s not expressed remains stuck.

“Your body is your subconscious mind.”

— Candace Pert, neuroscientist

Ways to release old emotions in the hips

There are several ways to release fear, trauma, and stress associated with tight hips. These include:

  • somatic exercises
  • yoga
  • stretching
  • mind-body practices
  • massage
  • somatic experiencing therapy

Somatic exercises

Somatics offer a way to enhance the mind and body connection.

These body-awareness practices involve focusing on your inner experience as you perform intentional exercises.

Somatic exercises include:

  • rolfing
  • shaking
  • Body-Mind Centering
  • Alexander Technique
  • Feldenkrais Method
  • Laban Movement Analysis

Eddy notes the importance of movement for releasing held emotions. By expanding your internal awareness, you can listen to the cues your body sends about where you may be storing stress or imbalance.

In her work through Dynamic Embodiment, Eddy also focuses on movement as a way to activate the lymphatic system to aid the transit of white blood cells throughout the body.

When it comes to the hips specifically, Eddy says the key is to get the spine moving.

“You want to contract and lengthen [the psoas] and get it moving like an accordion,” Eddy says, emphasizing full body involvement. “Not just with the leg but with the whole spine.”

Eddy notes that African dance is a wonderful way to create fluidity as it involves the movement of the entire spine. She also recommends sideward movements like twists and rotating the body to activate the psoas.

Yoga, stretching, and mind-body practices

Practicing yoga is another way to release tension in the hips and get the full body moving.

Some good options include:

  • sun salutations
  • pelvic stretches
  • hip flexor stretches

The flowing postures and synchronistic breathing of sun salutations help move the spine and open up hip flexors.

In addition, pelvic stretches like a ground bridge with pelvic tilt can be therapeutic if you’re experiencing psoas pain.

There are also plenty of hip flexor stretches and exercises you can add into your daily routine, such as lunges and seated butterfly stretches.

Other practices that can aid releasing tension and increasing the mind-body connection include:

  • qi gong
  • tai chi
  • aikido
  • dance
  • Pilates

Massage the arch of the foot

Eddy notes that the arch of the foot correlates to the psoas muscle in reflexology. You can tell the state of your psoas by observing the arch alone, she says.

“If you’re massaging your foot and this arch in the foot is collapsed, then you might have an overstretched psoas, or if it’s really held tight, you might have a tight psoas,” Eddy says. “Working this lateral arch of the foot in reflexology means you’re going to be working with the lower back or down [in the hips].”

By applying pressure to the arch of the foot, which is where the psoas and adrenal glands spots are located, you can also release some of the tension in your hip area.

Listening to your body

Through somatic experiencing, a type of therapy that emphasizes the mind-body connection, you can learn to notice and make peace with bodily sensations.

Working through the pain and physical symptoms can help you get in touch with their underlying psychological causes.

“That work is embodiment work, it’s where you sense it, you feel it, you then also move from it,” Eddy says. “And then either embracing it, working with it, or negotiating with it to make changes…whatever the cause, it will reveal itself in its deepest level.”

Takeaway

If you experience stress and anxiety regularly, get acquainted with how it feels and where it may be held in your body.

While you might notice and talk about your experience with a mental health professional, it’s another thing to use movement to release stored tension.

The hips are an important storage vessel of emotional stress because of the psoas’ link to the adrenal glands and the location of the sacral chakra.

Next time you’re in yoga class doing hip-opening postures, you might just notice that there’s a lot more going on than just a simple stretch.

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Medically reviewed by Joslyn Jelinek, LCSW — Written by Julianne Ishler on June 17, 2021

How I Use Biohacking to Overcome Burnout at Work

Work stress resulted in depression and led this entrepreneur to seek new solutions.

By Simon Lovell October 28, 2021

Opinions expressed by Entrepreneur contributors are their own.

This article is a repost which originally appeared on Entrepreneur

Edited for content

When you’ve spent so many days in front of the computer screen anxious, mentally exhausted and unable to focus on the work you love, you start to look for answers. 

My build-up to burnout at work started with low-level stress, which then increased to anxiety. I would stay up late at night, force myself into bed and then get interrupted sleep, causing me to be grumpy the next day.

Over time, this lack of self-control manifested in irritability, anger and a lack of confidence, increasing my use of cigarettes, alcohol and anything else to block me from feeling my emotions because I couldn’t handle them. I was in denial about what was happing in my personal relationships and constantly blamed the people around me without taking responsibility for my own mental health.

Eventually, this disconnection from my body led to self-doubt and social isolation. When people would invite me out, I would use two excuses: “I’m too tired” or “I’m too busy.” These were lies to protect me from being around people because I couldn’t handle the feelings that would come up when trying to connect with others. 

The final stage of this aggressive attack on my true self was pushing those closest to me away. Unable to understand myself, I started to question who I was as a man, confused about my identity and desperate for answers. I was not present; I was preoccupied with my overactive mind and self-judgment.

That’s when I turned to biohacking. 

Biohacking entails hitting a challenge or number of challenges from multiple angles until you come up with an optimum solution. Sometimes, this can be a very costly journey, as it was for me. I have invested over $250,000 to “sort myself out.” But I got the results I wanted, and once I did, I was determined to see if the process could help other people too. 

My clients, who are working in very demanding roles, need to be at their best, and when their burnout is causing pressure at home, that’s normally when I get the message to help. They don’t understand how their brain works and need a plan to get back into the zone.

Here’s what happens when I’m working specifically with someone who is successful and need to get him or her back on track within days.

Biohack No. 1: Supercharging meditation 

If you are going through a serious illness and are told by your doctor to go to the hospital for a five-day treatment that will preserve your ability to walk, you’re going to do it. Often, that’s not the case when meditation is the prescription. 

Many business owners are inconsistent with meditation because they don’t understand the significant impact that daily meditation at a certain time can have on reducing burnout and speeding up recovery. If you meditate for two days, then feel a little better and go back to your normal habits, you did little to rewire yourself or shift your consciousness — just like eating spinach twice will not make you lean (or Popeye). The brain requires strong and frequent action to forge “synaptic strength.” 

When I’m guiding my leaders through specific meditations (before they start work is key), it’s not just about the type of meditation: It’s about the consistency and actions that are taken afterward that also create a shift away from burnout. But variety is key in biohacking.

In the early stages, guided meditations are better for newcomers to meditation, especially entrepreneurs who have struggled in the past with being consistent. The mind wanders too much when there are simply sounds and music. If they are too “boring” for the ego early on, the impatient entrepreneur’s mind will sabotage the long-term benefits. It’s a trap so many fall into. I once did too. 

Biohack No. 2: Awareness elevation

Neuroscience teaches us that education alone isn’t enough to change us. The best example of this is courage (a key part of bouncing back from burnout). You don’t become a courageous person from reading about courage. However, someone can bring awareness to a part of your personality that you may not be aware of, and then you get the opportunity to take a different action. If you always give your friends advice and get frustrated with nothing changing, it’s likely because of this very principle. People have to want change badly enough to enact it. 

We can start to overcome burnout at work quickly when we get the right education and then act. When this happens over a sequence of days, this backs up the already shifted energy in the morning (via meditation), which acts as a baseline for conscious actions. Without this, the actions are less likely because energies such as fear are still active in the nervous system. The body needs to feel safe to take action, which is a major factor in continued procrastination. 

Biohack No. 3: Breaking the “stuck” cycle

When stress and disconnection build up to a level that robs others of our presence, we get caught in a repetitive cycle doing the same thing over and over again. This creates more frustration. When I’m guiding my clients back into flow, peace and ease in their business, to support the first two biohacks, I’m giving them specific micro-actions every day so that they alter what can become a mundane routine. 

This could be as simple as trying out a different coffee shop, but builds over time until that spark and variety of life is injected, and the mind also starts to shift from its “mind-set-point.” When you hear “change your mindset,” it’s really about changing your actions, which comes from a different energetic system. Then, when we feel good about what we just did or revisit what we once lost, we go back into business with that fire, happiness and love that were temporarily lost because of the disconnection between the mind and the heart.

These elements work on their own and together, much like a truly healthy smoothie; one ingredient can work well, but it’s better to shoot for the ideal blend that works together for optimum results, especially if you want to be back to your best.

If you’re reading this and feel compelled to take action, yet continue not to act, you’re training yourself to repeat the same inaction. Do something now. There is a window of opportunity that was just opened for you.

Written By
Simon Lovell
Entrepreneur Leadership Network Contributor

Simon Lovell’s clients hire him to develop their emotional superpowers for next-level success and happiness. He is the creator of the Super High-Performance Formula and author of ‘The Black Ball: Does Anybody Else Have A Secret?’

The Context of Stamina Exercises for Training Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

The Context of Stamina Exercises for Training Male Enhancement: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about exercises.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Big Al

Q. In your 3×20 routine you mention doing Kegels during the breaks in between sets.

What’s the advantage of this over doing them after the hanging?

Al: The Kegels in between sets are meant to act as an antagonist to the stretching- creating a “push/pull” effect*. There’s also the efficiency factor. It’s recommended you take a break in between hanging sets to restore full circulation, so if you can that and take care of other aspects of your training, you save time.

*Reference: https://mediphysio.com.au/pnf-stretching-technique/

Q. What is the purpose for starting a workout using Emotional Visualizations?

Al: The Emotional Visualizations serve the purpose of dispelling emotions inappropriate to the scenario (e.g.- anxiety, apathy, etc.) and replacing them with, at the very least, a feeling of neutrality. Optimally, you should be inducing a feeling of confidence and relaxed joy to effect the best response. This will allow you to set the tone to extract much more out of the sensations you’re experiencing- which leads to a better kinesthetic sense during training. As you get better as inducing the desired emotions, you’ll learn to transcend limitations placed by your own [initial] mental reservations.

Q. Up until now I haven’t been doing any sort of stamina exercise…

[Editor’s Note: This refers to Kegels and edging and may also include outside activities like cardiovascular training], and I think this could be why I’m not making gains. Getting erections is easy for me but maintaining them past a few minutes is hard. What should I do?

Al: It can’t be stressed enough that- for as long as you’re pursuing enlargement- you should be attempting to get your Erection Quality (EQ) as high as you can get it. This rule applies even if your sexual prowess is satisfactory. Few factors are more important for inducing maximum tissue stretch and recovery than high EQ.

This doesn’t even cover the other benefits of stamina work- which include greater penis strength and health, as well as ejaculatory control. One can even develop the ability to become multiorgasmic, as discussed in the Master Your Orgasms exercise.

In your case, including Kegels and Stop and Starts immediately after your enlargement work should work well. You should also take care to do what you can outside of male enhancement training to induce better EQ, and nothing beats cardiovascular exercise for this purpose.

What is EQ, Trusting Emotional Visualizations & Pacing Kegel Reps: Ask The Experts

What is EQ, Trusting Emotional Visualizations & Pacing Kegel Reps: Ask The Experts

Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about EQ, Emotional Visualizations and pacing kegel reps.

If you have questions you’d like answered in an Ask the Experts article, please PM Big Al

Q: What is EQ and how do I measure it?

Al: Erection Quality is a combined measure of stamina AND hardness.
A 0 would be complete impotence whereas a 10 would be YOUR ideal standard of stamina and hardness. You can use whatever standard you like to gauge EQ: workout performance, sexual activity, or even an average of it all- as long as it’s consistent.

A 7 is typically considered just hard enough for penetration, but still flexible.

Q. How come I’m really struggling with the idea of trusting emotional visualization to get erect.

Doing the exercises isn’t an issue for me but how I get erect direct is and I’m concerned about that.

Al: The above is the very reason you should practice Emotional Visualizations. Your struggling and concern are the items sought to be mastered with the exercise. The EV is where you learn to let go of struggles and concerns. Doing this during training will help you to develop a foundation which transfers over to sexual confidence and performance. Practiced individually and widely, it can also help to place sex into its proper context into people’s lives.

It may sound as if I’m overblowing the effects of the EV, but the benefits from and skills learned from that exercise will be of immense value to you!

Q. Thank you for recommending the kegels! I am noticing a difference in hardness and waking up at night with hard ons after one week.

You recommended starting off with 5 reps, but I felt I could do more, so I am adding 5 every day. I am up to 15 reps but it’s getting harder to do them now! What do you recommend that I do now with the reps?

Al: For the kegels- or any other exercise- you need to take care not to force your limits just yet! The reasoning behind this involves training momentum. If you pace your progress, you’ll be able to train for MUCH longer in a progressive manner. If you force a peak in your training too soon you’ll burn out very quickly (no training momentum).

The Kegels usually doesn’t lend itself to very rapid rep increases from an established baseline. I’d recommend you back off to ~10 reps or so and resume adding one rep per session. When you get to 20 resp total, add 2 reps per session.

The ‘Untranslatable’ Emotions You Never Knew You Had

The ‘Untranslatable’ Emotions You Never Knew You Had

From gigil to wabi-sabi and tarab, there are many foreign emotion words with no English equivalent. Learning to identify and cultivate these experiences could give you a richer and more successful life.

BBC Future | David Robson

This article is a repost which originally appeared on pocket

Edited for content.

Have you ever felt a little mbuki-mvuki – the irresistible urge to “shuck off your clothes as you dance”? Perhaps a little kilig – the jittery fluttering feeling as you talk to someone you fancy? How about uitwaaien – which encapsulates the revitalising effects of taking a walk in the wind?

These words – taken from Bantu, Tagalog, and Dutch – have no direct English equivalent, but they represent very precise emotional experiences that are neglected in our language. And if Tim Lomas at the University of East London has his way, they might soon become much more familiar.

Lomas’s Positive Lexicography Project aims to capture the many flavours of good feelings (some of which are distinctly bittersweet) found across the world, in the hope that we might start to incorporate them all into our daily lives. We have already borrowed many emotion words from other languages, after all – think “frisson”, from French, or “schadenfreude”, from German – but there are many more that have not yet wormed their way into our vocabulary. Lomas has found hundreds of these “untranslatable” experiences so far – and he’s only just begun.

Learning these words, he hopes, will offer us all a richer and more nuanced understanding of ourselves. “They offer a very different way of seeing the world.”

Gigil is a Tagalog word that describes the irresistible urge to pinch or squeeze someone because they are loved or cherished. Credit: Alamy.

Lomas says he was first inspired after hearing a talk on the Finnish concept of sisu, which is a sort of “extraordinary determination in the face of adversity”. According to Finnish speakers, the English ideas of “grit”, “perseverance” or “resilience” do not come close to describing the inner strength encapsulated in their native term. It was “untranslatable” in the sense that there was no direct or easy equivalent encoded within the English vocabulary that could capture that deep resonance.

Intrigued, he began to hunt for further examples, scouring the academic literature and asking every foreign acquaintance for their own suggestions. The first results of this project were published in the Journal of Positive Psychology last year.

Many of the terms referred to highly specific positive feelings, which often depend on very particular circumstances:

  • Desbundar (Portuguese) – to shed one’s inhibitions in having fun
  • Tarab (Arabic) – a musically induced state of ecstasy or enchantment
  • Shinrin-yoku (Japanese) – the relaxation gained from bathing in the forest, figuratively or literally
  • Gigil (Tagalog) – the irresistible urge to pinch or squeeze someone because they are loved or cherished
  • Yuan bei (Chinese) – a sense of complete and perfect accomplishment
  • Iktsuarpok (Inuit) – the anticipation one feels when waiting for someone, whereby one keeps going outside to check if they have arrived

But others represented more complex and bittersweet experiences, which could be crucial to our growth and overall flourishing.

  • Natsukashii (Japanese) – a nostalgic longing for the past, with happiness for the fond memory, yet sadness that it is no longer
  • Wabi-sabi (Japanese) – a “dark, desolate sublimity” centred on transience and imperfection in beauty
  • Saudade (Portuguese) – a melancholic longing or nostalgia for a person, place or thing that is far away either spatially or in time – a vague, dreaming wistfulness for phenomena that may not even exist
  • Sehnsucht (German) – “life-longings”, an intense desire for alternative states and realisations of life, even if they are unattainable

In addition to these emotions, Lomas’s lexicography also charted the personal characteristics and behaviours that might determine our long-term well-being and the ways we interact with other people.

  • Dadirri (Australian aboriginal) term – a deep, spiritual act of reflective and respectful listening
  • Pihentagyú (Hungarian) – literally meaning “with a relaxed brain”, it describes quick-witted people who can come up with sophisticated jokes or solutions
  • Desenrascanço (Portuguese) – to artfully disentangle oneself from a troublesome situation
  • Sukha (Sanskrit) – genuine lasting happiness independent of circumstances
  • Orenda (Huron) – the power of the human will to change the world in the face of powerful forces such as fate

You can view many more examples on his website, where there is also the opportunity to submit your own. Lomas readily admits that many of the descriptions he has offered so far are only an approximation of the term’s true meaning. “The whole project is a work in progress, and I’m continually aiming to refine the definitions of the words in the list,” he says. “I definitely welcome people’s feedback and suggestions in that regard.”

In the future, Lomas hopes that other psychologists may begin to explore the causes and consequences of these experiences – to extend our understanding of emotion beyond the English concepts that have dominated research so far.

But studying these terms will not just be of scientific interest; Lomas suspects that familiarising ourselves with the words might actually change the way we feel ourselves, by drawing our attention to fleeting sensations we had long ignored.

“In our stream of consciousness – that wash of different sensations feelings and emotions – there’s so much to process that a lot passes us by,” Lomas says. “The feelings we have learned to recognise and label are the ones we notice – but there’s a lot more that we may not be aware of. And so I think if we are given these new words, they can help us articulate whole areas of experience we’ve only dimly noticed.”

As evidence, Lomas points to the work of Lisa Feldman Barrett at Northeastern University, who has shown that our abilities to identify and label our emotions can have far-reaching effects.

Her research was inspired by the observation that certain people use different emotion words interchangeably, while others are highly precise in their descriptions. “Some people use words like anxious, afraid, angry, disgusted to refer to a general affective state of feeling bad,” she explains. “For them, they are synonyms, whereas for other people they are distinctive feelings with distinctive actions associated with them.”

This is called “emotion granularity” and she usually measures this by asking the participants to rate their feelings on each day over the period of a few weeks, before she calculates the variation and nuances within their reports: whether the same old terms always coincide, for instance.

Wabi-sabi is a Japanese term that describes our appreciation of transient and imperfect beauty – such as the fleeting splendour of cherry blossom.

Importantly, she has found that this then determines how well we cope with life. If you are better able to pin down whether you are feeling despair or anxiety, for instance, you might be better able to decide how to remedy those feelings: whether to talk to a friend, or watch a funny film. Or being able to identify your hope in the face of disappointment might help you to look for new solutions to your problem.

In this way, emotion vocabulary is a bit like a directory, allowing you to call up a greater number of strategies to cope with life. Sure enough, people who score highly on emotion granularity are better able to recover more quickly from stress and are less likely to drink alcohol as a way of recovering from bad news. It can even improve your academic success. Marc Brackett at Yale University has found that teaching 10 and 11-year-old children a richer emotional vocabulary improved their end-of-year grades, and promoted better behaviour in the classroom. “The more granular our experience of emotion is, the more capable we are to make sense of our inner lives,” he says.

Both Brackett and Barrett agree that Lomas’s “positive lexicography” could be a good prompt to start identifying the subtler contours of our emotional landscape. “I think it is useful – you can think of the words and the concepts they are associated with as tools for living,” says Barrett. They might even inspire us to try new experiences, or appreciate old ones in a new light.

It’s a direction of research that Lomas would like to explore in the future. In the meantime, Lomas is still continuing to build his lexicography – which has grown to nearly a thousand terms. Of all the words he has found so far, Lomas says that he most often finds himself pondering Japanese concepts such as wabi-sabi (that “dark, desolate sublimity” involving transience and imperfection). “It speaks to this idea of finding beauty in phenomena that are aged and imperfect,” he says. “If we saw the world through those eyes, it could be a different way of engaging in life.”

The MMA fighter who beat up a tai-chi master didn’t win the fight

The MMA fighter who beat up a tai-chi master didn’t win the fight

By Ephrat Livni

Senior reporter, law & politics, DC.
Published May 20, 2017This article is more than 2 years old.

This article is a repost which originally appeared on QUARTZ

Edited for content.

The fighting monks of Shaolin Monastery in the Pagoda Forest on Song Mountain in China are globally adored. They’re real but have been made mythical in countless martial-arts movies and the Wu Tang Clan’s hip-hop.

Now, their ancient arts are allegedly threatened by the new. The Shaolin fighting tradition, specifically tai-chi, just lost big time against mixed martial arts, or MMA, in a brisk showdown in China, a battle that was offensive to the government and others. The quick pummeling violated traditional codes of conduct, and the winner, Xu Xiaodong, has gone into hiding, so grave is the situation.

The loss ostensibly also calls into question the relevance of the ancient art of the loser, Wei Lei, practitioner of the “thunder style” of tai chi.

Any such claim may be shortsighted–with all due respect to the fast, loose, and furious MMA fighting style. After all, MMA is new. Shaolin’s Zen monks have been practicing for 1,500 years.

Two Phase Approach To Eliminating Fear/Hesitation And Developing Efficiency

Two Phase Approach To Eliminating Fear/Hesitation And Developing Efficiency

A Jimmy Bond article

A good amount of credit goes to Al for this article. He worked with me on putting this together.

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There are two very powerful methods to help master fears. These methods are desensitization and counterconditioning.

Desensitization deals with the negative phase where the main goal is to reduce anxiety. During this phase, exposure is attempted. This is where to you attempt to approach the scenario of your anxieties in a progressive manner.

Here’s a good example of this at work: If you have performance anxiety for certain sexual acts (for example: penetration) you would engage in nonthreatening foreplay activities only for the time being. As you get more comfortable and allow your libido to build to the point to where it begins to effectively counteract potential anxieties, then attempts are made to engage in activities which have previously caused anxiety.

It’s important during this phase to work with a trusted partner so you have confidence with the process.

An effective tactic to use when you begin to feel anxiety is to reroute your mind to focus on your breathing. This will allow you to center yourself emotionally. A great exercise which incorporates this is the Emotional Visualizations movement.

Counterconditioning deals with the positive phase where the goal is maximizing efficiency. For this phase, more challenging movements/activities are undertaking to increase sexual ability. These include targets of greater hardness, stamina and ejaculatory control. At this stage, Emotional Visualizations are used only as needed (for when you feel distracted or begin to get pangs of anxiety).

The focus of this phase should be on deepening the level of emotional comfort to the point to where you become completely uninhibited and are able to fully enjoy the experience with all of your senses. This also allows a deep connection with your sexual partner, resulting in a much more intense experience.

The essence of how both of these phases are done can apply for a lot of life’s activities where you might feel inhibited due to anxiety.