Dealing with Premature Ejaculation & Causes of Premature Ejaculation (from The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement)

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation & Causes of Premature Ejaculation

The following are two chapters taken from the book: The Ultimate Guide To Male Enhancement.

Edited for content

Chapter 12: Dealing with Premature Ejaculation

What is Premature Ejaculation?

The definition of what constitutes premature ejaculation may vary depending on the source, but it’s commonly accepted as a scenario where the length of time for sexual performance on the part of the male is unsatisfactory, by either the man or his partner. That being said, what constitutes premature ejaculation can be arbitrary. There is no set time that if you orgasm before it then you have premature ejaculation.

Consider this – the average time between arousal and ejaculation is typically three minutes for a man. Considering the
average time for a woman to orgasm is typically 13 minutes after arousal it can be seen how many men may think they have premature ejaculation, but really they are simply normal. With this in mind, you can see why foreplay is so important to satisfying a woman.

Phases of Ejaculation

There are two phases of ejaculation.

● The Emission Phase and

● The Ejaculatory Phase

Emission Phase:

Here are the physical processes which occur during the emission phase of ejaculation:

● The vas deferens begins to contract to move sperm from the testes toward the urethra and prostate gland.

● The seminal vesicles secrete fluids into the urethra

● Chemical messages activate the sympathetic nervous system and begin what’s known as the ‘point of no return’
(PONR). Ejaculation is inevitable at this point.

Ejaculatory Phase:

During the ejaculatory phase, the posterior portion of the urethra senses the sperm and secretions and sends a signal
to the spinal cord. This then sends messages to the muscles at the base of your penis. This causes said muscles to contract, which results in ejaculation.

Chapter 13: Causes of Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation can be caused by any number of factors. These can be separated into two categories:

● Physical (which can include chemical side effects) and

● Mental (or psychological) causes.

It’s not uncommon for both some mental component to be present in physical cases of premature ejaculation. Worry
about the experience of premature ejaculation often compounds any physical components.

Physical Premature Ejaculation

The most common form of premature ejaculation is due to physical causes. The most common among these is negative conditioning. This is usually because most men masturbate in a hurried and furtive manner. Doing this repeatedly trains the body into ejaculating quickly, so it shouldn’t be surprising to understand how this can lead to issues.

If added stimuli like porn is used, it can further skew what you can expect from real sexual encounters. This then adds to anxiety, which further increases the possibility of premature ejaculation. The easiest way to correct this is to train in a manner contrary to negative conditioning. This will be discussed in detail further in the section.

Hormonal Issues

If you have low testosterone or abnormal levels of catabolic hormones this can have a drastic effect on your ability to maintain an erection. This can turn into premature ejaculation if you have to strive to get erect. It can be further compounded if your hormone imbalances induce negative emotions like anxiety. Diet and exercise is often recommended as a treatment for issues related to hormone imbalances; however, if do-it-yourself treatments aren’t effective, then a full blood work up is necessary to determine the cause of these imbalances.

Chronic and/or acute stress can lower levels of dopamine in the system. This can create a scenario where you can find it difficult just to get aroused even in the absence of anxiety. Stress management is key to helping treat this issue. The amino acid L-Tyrosine has been shown to be effective at helping to restore natural dopamine levels.


It’s been shown infections of the prostate and urethra may contribute to premature ejaculation. Infections usually require medical attention and antibiotics for treatment.

Pelvic Floor Issues

Pelvic floor spasms may contribute to premature ejaculation. If these symptoms are minor, rest and targeted stretching of the area should help to alleviate the issue. If the problem is more severe, this might require the services of a physical therapist for relief.

A strain in the pelvic floor may cause pain upon Kegeling and symptoms such as “hard flaccid”. Certain muscles like the ischiocavernosus can become perpetually strained. This leads to a difficult to resolve issue, as these muscles are involved in many different bodily functions. Due to this, it’s not easy to allow them to recover as you would if you immobilized an arm or even a leg. A strain may require targeted massage and heat. Specific yoga poses which specifically target the pelvic floor may help to speed healing as well.

A common cause of pelvic floor issues is due to abusing the Kegel. This includes the Reverse Kegel (contractile) exercise. It’s vital you start Kegeling by using only as much contractile force as is needed during any of the Kegel type movements. A limited number of reps should be performed as well and then slowly increased each session.

Prescription Medications

Some prescription drugs may cause premature ejaculation as one of their side effects. If this is the case, contact your physician or pharmacist to see if there are alternative medications.

Mental Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation may be placed on the spectrum of erectile dysfunction, especially if the case is so severe that penetration becomes difficult or impossible. This is often the case if performance anxiety is involve. A common scenario will involve difficulty in obtaining an erection, with almost immediate ejaculation upon or even before penetration. This stage most commonly precedes impotence.

Anxiety, depression and stress are three of the leading mental causes of premature ejaculation. Sometimes, it’s a matter
of which came first though – the chicken or the egg – the premature ejaculation or the anxiety/depression/stress. It’s
not uncommon for men to suffer from these three common challenges without even realizing. It’s even more common for these challenges to surface, when there’s a concern about premature ejaculation.

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Bodyweight Only Training Exercises for Mass and Strength

Bodyweight Only Training Exercises for Mass and Strength

Courtesy of Ultimate Male Enhancement

Here’s a list below of some bodyweight and calisthenic exercises below which can be used in lieu of weight training exercises. These are good for alternative training as well as for those times you may not have access to free weights.

Having a fit overall body is the best way to maximize your sexual health. Overall muscle strength and physical stamina are key to a great sex life! Following are bodyweight only exercises you can do, most without any special equipment. Plus, you can do most of them almost anywhere, which makes them perfect for busy schedules.

As always, be sure to get clearance from your medical professional before starting any new exercise routine.

Bodyweight Only Training Exercises for Mass and Strength

Female Sexual Anatomy Basics: AKA Where is the Clitoris?

female sexual anatomy

female sexual anatomyLet’s be honest guys, the female sexual anatomy is a weird (and awesome!) mystery. Male sexual anatomy is so much more straight forward (at least externally).  You have the penis and the testicles – maybe some foreskin. Everything’s just out there in front – easy to access – easy to see – usually easy to please.

But, women… we tuck our fun bits underneath. We have weird inner labia and outer labia, and that oh-so-elusive…


Even if you’ve had lots of sexual partners, that little nub of pleasure can be as hard to find sometimes as a unicorn in a field of 4-leaf clovers! So, let’s take a look at some basic outer female sexual anatomy, and specifically talk about the clitoris.

Female Sexual Anatomy Overview

Female sexual anatomy usually includes the vulva (the outer “fun parts”) and the reproductive system (the inner “working parts”). The inner working parts, like the ovaries, the Fallopian tubes, and more are all very important to sexual health, but in this post, let’s focus on the vulva.

The Vulva (and NO “Vulva” is not the fancy term for the Vagina)

First, let’s clear up one really common misconception. That whole outer female sex area down there… NOT the vagina. It’s actually called the vulva.

The vagina is the flattened tube that connects the outer world with the cervix, which leads to the uterus. So, when someone is talking about the vagina, they (shouldn’t) don’t mean the whole funland area down there – they (should be) are talking about specifically that tube inside the body.

OK, with that straightened out, let’s look at the parts of the vulva. (the outer sexual anatomy bits). The vulva includes:

    • Labia (Majora – outer lips & Minora – inner lips) –
      • The labia (lips) are the folds of skin that go around the vaginal opening. As the names imply – the inner lips (minora) are the folds closer to the opening inside the outer (majora) lips.
      • Labia are as different and unique as thumbprints. No two are alike. Some are plump and tight and short. Some are long and wrinkly.
      • Just like men typically have one testicle that hangs lower than the other – most women have one labia that hangs lower than the other.
      • Again, just like a man’s penis tissue coloration can vary significantly from man-to-man and can even be significantly different from the skin color on the rest of their body, the labia can be light pink to a dark brown. FUN FACT: The color of many women’s labia changes as they get older!
      • Like the skin of the testicles, the labia can be very sensitive. They typically swell (some women more than others) when sexually stimulated with increased blood flow.
      • Urban slang – fish lips, taco, bearded clam, and SO many more!
    • Urethra Opening –
      • The tiny hole the woman urinates out of. It’s located toward the top of the vulva, right below the clit.
    • .Vaginal Opening – 
      • The vaginal opening is located below the urethra opening. This is the gateway to fun town.
      • The vaginal opening, although an “opening”, is not naturally in an open state, because the vagina itself is a flattened tube to prevent entry of bacteria and unwanted objects.
    • The Anus – 
      • Whether or not your partner considers this part of the female anatomy to be part of her “sexual” anatomy is up to her. Always discuss (and get approval) any anal activity with your partner before trying anything.
      • This opening to the rectum has a lot of very sensitive nerve endings in it. For this reason, many women and men alike get sexual pleasure when this area is stimulated.
    • Mons Pubis – 
      • The mons pubis is the fleshy portion of skin above the vulva. It’s designed to cushion the pubic bone of the woman, so includes a fat pad that expands and contracts with overall bodyweight.
      • Men also have this same fat pad to cushion their pubic bone and, in fact, overweight men can see measurable increase in penis length (both flaccid and erect) simply by losing weight and decreasing this fat pad.
    • Clitoris –
      • The clitoris is protected by a fold of skin, where the inner labia meet, known as the clitoral hood.
      • The tip of the clit is located at the top of the vulva, right where those labia minor come together.
      • Like penises, the tip of clitorises (clitori? – hmm… what is the plural) come in a lot of different sizes. Some are small, even smaller than the size of a pea. Some are rather large – like thumb size. All are beautiful!
      • The clit continues into the body and runs along both sides of the vagina (the canal we talked about earlier).
      • When turned on, the clitoris typically swells with blood – like a little mini penis.
      • FUN FACT: There are more nerve endings per square inch than any other part of the body in the clitoris. AND, it has no other purpose than to feel good! The ultimate hedonistic body part!

How Do You Find the Clitoris? And, Why is it So Elusive?

So, if this little tiny body part is so pleasurable why in the world is it so hard for men to find? You’d think God (or whatever method of creation you believe in) would’ve put a big arrow on this thing. TOUCH HERE! That way men would be able to find it easier and women would want to have sex more often, since 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm!

Read that again guys… 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm!

Needless to say – finding and successfully stimulating the clit should be PRIORITY #1 (or at least at the top of your sexual to do list). Check out these drawings below, to start to “see” where you should begin your clitoral treasure hunt.

where is the clitoris

vulva anatomy

Step-By-Step Instructions on Finding the Clit

  1. Have your partner lie down on their back.
  2. Gently separate the labia.
  3. Locate the vagina opening. If the vaginal opening were a 6 on the face of a clock, the clitoris is going to be at 12.
  4. Slowly move your hand up the vulva from the vaginal opening. Follow the inner lips up and where they meet – that’s the clitoral hood.
  5. Gently stimulate the clitoral hood. Circular motions are usually good. Start softly and increase intensity slowly. Tongue, fingers, nose, vibrator – whatever.
  6. If you’re not sure you’re in the right spot, make those circles wide by using the whole pad of your finger, rather than the tip – or the flat of your tongue, rather than the tip.
  7. Once stimulated, the clitoris will typically fill with blood and become more prominent. Some of them get pretty big; other stay small but are engorged. Even if you can’t see it (maybe the lights are off, or you’re not at the right viewing angle), you should be able to feel the clit once your partner is sexually excited.
  8. Back of the pressure and very gently rub your fingertip or tongue around the area until you feel the hard little excited nub and VOILA!
  9. Go get ’em! But, again, start softly and build pressure slowly.

If you’re looking for more information on the female body, be sure to check out the posts below. An educated lover is a better lover! 😀

A Little Bit About Female Anatomy: AKA How Big is the Vagina?

More About the Vagina

Where is the G-Spot?


New to Penis Enlargement? Start Here!

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One of the most common questions I get is —

I’m new to penis enlargement? How do I start?

Well, you’ve already taken the best first step by finding!

Now that you’re here, check out the slideshow below of the best articles we’ve developed specifically for beginners. Of course, if you ever have questions, come over to the Forums, where our community will be happy to help!   Happy PEing!

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Kegel Exercises for Men

Kegel Exercises for Men

If you and your partner have had a child, chances are you’ve heard about Kegel exercises. Well, guess what? Kegel exercises are also for men! Yes, you heard me right — there are Kegel exercises for men! And, they definitely should be part of your penis enlargement exercise routine.

kegel exercises for men infographicWhat Are Kegel Exercises for Men?

The Kegel was discovered by Dr. Arnold Kegel in the 1940s to help women tighten their vaginas after giving birth. However, Kegels aren’t just for women — you can do Kegel exercises for men.

Kegel exercises for men are a great way to improve the overall health and hardness of their penis, along with increasing your ability to last longer in bed. Just like with women, Kegels for men have one primary goal — strengthen your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle (also known as the pelvic floor muscle.)

Pelvic floor muscles
The pelvic floor muscles.

This muscle is very similar in both men and women, as it stretches from the tail bone up to the pubic bone, creating a hammock-like muscle floor. The PC muscles support the pelvic organs, assisting the sphincter muscle functions.

The Kegel is different from all the other penile exercises in that it actually contracts and strengthens real skeletal muscles – your pelvic floor muscles.

What are the Benefits of Kegel Exercises for Men?

The Kegel is just as beneficial for men wanting to improve their sex lives, as women. Yet, for one reason or another, most men skip out on the Kegel because it’s the only penis exercise that doesn’t directly enlarge the penis. However, Kegel exercises for men have a wide range of other benefits, some of which can cure problems or indirectly enlarge the penis. These benefits include:

  • Healthier pelvic floor muscles, thanks to Kegels, gives you a more erect erection.
kegel exercises for men benefits
Kegel exercises for men benefits include improved erection angle.
  • Kegels will help you have harder erections that last longer, thanks to the improvement of penile blood flow.
  • Kegels will help you increase ejaculation force and volume, giving you the most explosive orgasms you’ve ever had.
  • Kegels indirectly enlarge the penis, through increased blood flow.
  • Kegels can help you control your ability to orgasm, giving you greater sexual stamina.
  • Kegels can help cure urinary incontinence, as these are the same muscles that help support and control your bladder.
  • Many men report after Kegeling for while that they no longer have to get up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom as they once did.
  • Kegels can help you have a healthier prostate and are used in the treatment of prostate pain and swelling, due to benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH).
  • Kegels are also used for the treatment of prostate pain and swelling due to prostatitis — inflammation of the prostate.
  • Kegels can prevent  prolapsed pelvic organs.

Many doctors, sexual experts, and websites refer to Kegel exercises for men as the “Sexercise” for all the benefits it provides. And it’s true — with all of these benefits, every guy should be Kegeling every single day.

How do I do a Kegel Exercise for Men?

Kegels are a great penis exercise for several reasons. Not only do they have all of the benefits we talked about above, but they’re easy to do and you can do them almost anywhere. People won’t even know you’re doing them!

  1. Find Your Pelvic Floor Muscles – Finding the PC muscle is easy. The next time you’re urinating, stop or slow your pee mid-flow. The muscles used to stop urinating is your PC muscle. Don’t actually tense legs, abdomen or butt cheek muscles, instead focus on lifting your entire pelvic floor upward. Most importantly, continue to breathe through the contraction of your pelvic floor. If you’re able to stop or slow your urine in mid-stream, you’ve just successfully located and contracted your pelvic floor muscles! If you’re having a hard time, it’s the same set of muscles you use to tighten your anus. Now you’re ready to Kegel.
  2. Contract Your Pelvic Floor Muscles – When you’re ready to do Kegel exercises for men, the first thing you need to do is contract your pelvic floor muscles.
  3. Hold the Kegel Contraction – Hold that contraction for as long as you can. Most men can’t hold a Kegel at first for no more than a couple of seconds. Some may not able to hold it at all. That’s OK, that’s what penis exercises are for – to make you stronger! Make a note of how long you can hold the Kegel.
  4. Release the Kegel Contraction and Repeat – Release the squeeze and repeat, for ten repetitions. Gradually build up your Kegels until you can hold them for 10 seconds each.

When you perform the exercise correctly, you should be able to feel or see your testicles lift.  This takes time for some men.  But, if you practice the routine regularly, you should notice an improvement in your pelvic floor muscle strength, in 4-6 weeks.

The best part about the Kegel is that it doesn’t require any assistance from your hands or legs. You can do Kegel exercises for men anywhere, anytime — whether it’s in a car, watching TV, standing in line at the grocery store, or even while you’re at work.

How Often Should I Kegel? Your Kegel Exercises for Men Routine

As with any other type of exercise, it’s better to start off slowly and build up your routine. Here are our recommendations, to get you started Kegeling for better sexual health.

  • For the first few weeks: Do 50 Kegels every other day. Each Kegel should be contracted for one to five seconds, depending on the strength of your PC muscle. The first time you Kegel, it probably won’t last much longer than a second or two. With more exercise and experience, your PC muscle will become much stronger and your Kegel exercises for men will last much longer.
  • Over time: Gradually incorporate more Kegels into your routine.  Work up to five to ten minutes a day, four days a week.  This should be fairly easy to do, since you can do Kegel exercises for men anywhere, anytime.  Many penis exercisers do them on their morning commute to work, for example. Eventually, spice it up and try holding your Kegels for as long as possible.

Can Kegels Help Me Become Multi-Orgasmic?

Yes! Kegel exercises for men can help you become multi-orgasmic! Once your PC muscle is strong, you’ll have the ability to stop yourself from ejaculating.  To do this, you’ll need to be able to hold a tight Kegel contraction for at least 10 seconds. Once you can do that, try the following method for delaying ejaculation:

  • Kegel right before you hit the “point of no return” – the point where semen starts moving through your penis and ejaculation is inevitable.
  • Hold the contraction for roughly 10 seconds or more.
  • After the urge to ejaculate has gone away, release the Kegel.

The hard part is building up your PC muscle so it’s strong enough to withstand the pressure of ejaculating. Accordingly, learning this process may actually take you anywhere from a few weeks to months to even years. Many men report that learning exactly when to do Kegel exercises for men is another hard part of the process. This part can take practice, patience, and a lot of attempts (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing), but is well worth the end result. Read our full article on The Multiple Male Orgasm, for more details.

Kegel Exercises for Men Tips

  • Kegels and penis enlargement: Kegeling while doing Jelqs, stretches, or any penile exercise promotes more blood flow to the penis.  In turn, this often enhances the effectiveness of each exercise.  So once you get the hang of kegeling, combine Kegels exercises for men with your other exercises.
  • Kegels exercises aren’t just for men: Kegels can be done by both men and women. Teach your partner to do Kegels and greatly add pleasure to your sexual experience. If a woman squeezes her PC muscle (i.e, kegels) during intercourse, her vagina tightens — increasing the pleasure for everyone involved!
  • Kegel exercises for men and premature ejaculation: “Uh-Oh, I am coming too quickly. . . What did I do?” Some men find themselves ejaculating quicker than normal when they first start kegeling. If this happens to you, be sure that you’re relaxing your PC muscle while having sex. Many penile exercisers find that once they learn how to do Kegel exercises for men, they’re unconsciously kegeling during sex. This quickly drains the strength of the PC muscle. This beginner kegeling side effect typically passes in just a few weeks time – and you’ll be able to last even longer in the bedroom once you get over it. The stronger your PC muscle, through performing Kegel exercises for men, the easier it is to stop yourself from ejaculating altogether.

Is It Possible to Overtrain with Kegel Exercises for Men?

As with all penis exercises, you don’t want to overtrain. It may be tempting to do as much as you possibly can at first, in hopes of seeing results faster. However, this is usually counterproductive.

Like a bodybuilder who overworks their muscles and is either too sore or injures themselves and can’t continue to workout, Kegel exercises for men are very similar. Overtrain and you’ll do more damage than good. Listen to your body. Give your body time to heal and recuperate. Progress slowly and you’ll reap all the rewards Kegels have to offer!


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Minuteman’s Dry Orgasm Guide – Part 1

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This article has been adapted by the editor of, from the guide written by Minuteman. The guide content is subject to change.

Note: This guide is for attempting to dry orgasm solo. But all the knowledge here transitions well into sex. Responsibility: By reading this guide, you and you alone bear the responsibility for attempting exercises, techniques and methods that are described or mentioned in this guide, so you attempt all this at your own risk, you have been warned.

Motivated by the current rise in interest about dry orgasms, despite the fact there is information about this in the Premature Ejaculation Forum, Minuteman creases a comprehensive guide on dry orgasms and how to achieve them. He is also motivated by the desire to help others to avoid possible injuries while attempting dry orgasm. Many PE’ers who attempt dry orgasms for the first time become (understandably) demotivated to pursue multiple male orgasms (MMO) further, due to the difficulties experienced when attempting dry orgasm. Minuteman was lucky to to have one of his first dry orgasms be a clean one. This proved to him one can attempt dry orgasm and suffer absolutely no discomfort when done right.

When performed correctly, dry orgasms can lead to multiple male orgasms.
When performed correctly, dry orgasms can lead to multiple male orgasms.

Introduction to Dry Orgasms

I used dry orgasm as one of the first tools to overcome premature ejaculation. While I was actively doing it, I was able to with relative ease. However, I stopped since I had no partner and decided to pursue other more traditional ways of fixing premature ejaculation. I knew there will always be times when doing a dry orgasm will be too difficult, due to various distractions. In doing so, I learned a lot.

  • In the first part of this guide, I will introduce the basic definition and elements of dry orgasm to eliminate any confusion with terms and also to clarify many points.
  • In the second, third and fourth parts, I will discuss in depth each of the elements needed for a successful dry orgasm.
  • In the fifth part, I will describe the entire dry orgasm process, including the things leaned from the previous parts and other tips.

Part I – Terminology, Classifications, Definitions, and Reasoning

Note: I assume you know what terms like: edging, ballooning, kegel, reverse kegel, root lock (back kegel) , reverse root lock (reverse back kegel) mean. If you don’t, pleas educate yourself on those terms first, then come back here. If I were to decribe all of these terms here, the length of this would quickly go from a guide to a book.

1) What is a Dry Orgasm? –  Differentiating Between Medical Terms and MMO Terms

If you Google around a bit, you will read many sources say dry orgasm and retrograde ejaculation are the same or one leads to another, since nothing comes out of your penis. However, in MMO terminology dry orgasm is different.

Retrograde ejaculation happens when the path for sperm to come out of your penis is obstructed or the bladder sphincter is not functioning properly. Since your sperm doesn’t have anywhere to go, it goes into your bladder. Dry orgasm, in this medical sense, is the feeling that occurs when retrograde ejaculation happens.  This is why most of the time when one refers to dry orgasm, in non-MMO terms, it refers to retrograde ejaculation. Just to be clear, these medical terms are valid in their definitions; however, since MMO also uses the term dry orgasm it can become a source of confusion.

Other types of medical dry orgasm occurs in younger males when they ejaculate numerous times within a short amount of time. This is due to the fact the testes are unable to produce enough sperm, but only able to provide the spasm that occurs with orgasm and nothing to ejaculate.

In MMO terms, dry orgasm occurs when you have an orgasm without ejaculation but during the time you should be ejaculating. This is done by stopping the expulsion part of ejaculation, with kegel holds, reverse kegel holds or some other method (these alternative methods are not explored or suggested in this guide since their safety hasn’t been determined).

Proper dry orgasm is made up of 3 components: strength, technique and timing.
Proper dry orgasm is made up of 3 components: strength, technique and timing.

2) Strength, Technique, Timing – The Essential Components of Dry Orgasm

There are three elements that determine whether the dry orgasm is performed properly or improperly. In order to have a dry orgasm the way it is meant to be, you must learn how to be proficient in all three of components. The better you are, the better dry orgasm you will have.

  • STRENGTH – The strength of the kegel hold needed to shut down the spasms that occur.
  • TECHNIQUE – The proper way of moving your kegel to make your hold more effective.
  • TIMING – The correct time when you should hold your kegel to properly preform a dry orgasm.

3) Types of Dry Orgasms

There are three bad and two good types of dry orgasms. The bad ones I list are for identification. The goal is to learn how to perform the two good ones.

Bad Dry Orgasms

  1. Dribble Ejaculation – This one happens most of the time when your kegel hold is not strong enough to attempt a dry orgasm. In a way, this one is the most harmless of the bad ones, since in the end all of the sperm goes out albeit very slow. Note: Dribble ejaculation can also occur normally when your pelvic floor is unbalanced and your reverse kegels are stronger than kegels, or your kegels are just weak. After dribble ejaculation, everything happens as with regular ejaculation.
  2. Partial Ejaculation – This happens when your timing is off and part of your ejaculation gets out. The remainder of the ejaculation either goes into your bladder (Partial-Retro) or doesn’t and is reabsorbed. This depends on both your technique and strength. Depending if the retro was included or not, you will go flaccid very fast and most of the time unable to retain both arousal and erection. As before, if without retro you likely will feel slight disconfort but lose little of your erection and arousal. Even though partial ejaculations may feel “good enough,” avoid having this type of orgasm and do not settle for them.
  3. Retro Ejaculation – This happens when your technique is not good enough and is the one most people experience. You should avoid retro ejaculation at all costs, since it can injure you. You will have a huge drop in both arousal and erection, and your penis might even turtle a little. Most of the time, you will feel discomfort. In order to check if you have in fact had retro ejaculation, after you attempt a dry orgasm, try and urinate in a cup and see how cloudy it is. If it is cloudy (you will spot it at once), you have retro ejaculated.

Good DOs

  1. Clean DO (or just Dry Orgasm) – This is the one you want. Clean dry orgasm happens when your strength and timing is right on the money. The technique is good enough. You will feel no discomfort during this dry orgasm. Your erection will drop just a little, due to the kegel hold, but your arousal and desire will remain as they where. It is up to you if you want to now take it slow or ejaculate or do another one. You will have approximately three spasms of decreasing strength. The first spasm is the one that you turn into a kegel hold, the second one will happen and, if your hold is strong enough, it will be of much decreased strength (you will barely feel it). The third one will be almost non-existent. If you experience more than three spasms, they will usually result in retrograde ejaculation or another of the bad types. The feeling of a good dry orgasm is very unique, even though it is an orgasm without an ejaculation. Most of the time, you will know if you have done it.
  2. Perfect DOs – This is the best form. This is the ideal dry orgasm when you have a kegel hold activated in specific way (technique) and specific strength (strength) and at a specific time (timing) that it STOPS all other spasms after the first one. In other words, you completely stop the ejaculation. You are left with the orgasmic feeling, no erection drop at all and your arousal is intact. That is what anyone who is practicing dry orgasm should aim for after clean dry orgasms. You are left a slightly before the point of no return. However, in essence this one is all technique. People with premature ejaculation might even encounter this one by accident while preforming start and stop with a kegel hold. It is bad practice to rely just on technique, because in order for this one to occur all the time you have to have all three parts perfect.

4) The Reverse Kegel Hold Dry Orgasm (And Why I Haven’t Included it Here)

As you will notice while reading this guide, there is no mention of dry orgasms achieved by reverse kegels, even though you might have run into people mentioning them in forums.

Here are some reasons I won’t be “teaching” how to RKDO:

  • I am not able to do it: This is the first and most important reason why. The whole point of this guide is to create a safe and well-defined environment where you can attempt dry orgasm with little to no risk. If I don’t know about details of RKDO, I am not going to give you some half-hearted explanation.
  • Not every reverse kegel hold you do and point of no return is a RKDO. This is the same as the fact that not every kegel hold is a dry orgasm, even if you are near the point of no return, because you are not stopping spasm kegel but just an involuntary one. However, due to now knowing those details, people usually clam they are able to RKDO. Until you are able to constantly produce similar results under the same circumstances you should not be sure of it.
  • It’s against the natural flow. Reverse kegeling goes against the normal flow of the ejaculation process. In timing mastery, I do tell you to hold the kegel but in a way it can (and will) be overpowered by a spasm kegel, so you can get the timing down. There you can feel and see that it is the natural flow.
  • Fully stopping a spasm kegel after a long and highly-aroused session is like waiting for somebody to punch you full force in the face. In contrast, turning a kegel spasm into a conscious kegel hold is like avoiding that punch and using the inertia to make it stronger,is the way you end up with a very strong kegel hold. However, in order to fully use that strength you have to be conditioned.

While there are people who swear by it, I can’t with clear conscience recommend you something like that.

In that light, I also want to warn you to always use your own judgement. Do not follow or trust this guide or me blindly, even though I have done everything I could to protect you from many problems that may occur and I have also followed the basic ideas while I was learning how to dry orgasm. This doesn’t mean there is nothing I am not aware of. If while performing the routines or mastering other aspects you feel or find something is fundamentally wrong, you should not continue this activity.

Regular ejaculation helps keep the pipes clean.
Regular ejaculation helps keep the pipes clean.

5) The Importance of Ejaculation

In time, you will gain the ability to have a dry orgasm. For some, ejaculation might start to seem pointless, since when you experience the first dry orgasm in a session you don’t feel much need to actually ejaculate and, in a way, feel satisfied. This mostly happens in the beginning stage of dry orgasming, when the brain is still mixing the signals from ejaculation with dry orgasming.

The thing to note here is ejaculation is a process that is good for the body. One of the most important things is it cleans the “pipes” and the prostate. In terms of men’s health, this is very, very important. If you continue to have dry orgasms and no ejaculations, you can become clogged and many of the secretions will be in your prostate. This can cause problems. On the other side of the equation, too frequent ejaculations might not benefit you or simply make you too tired. You should ejaculate at least once a week.

If you are dry orgasming, things change. You should ejaculate two to three days maximum after a dry orgasm session, in order to force the fluids that generate (mostly precum) out. For people who just started dry orgasming, this should be a rule.

For those who are seasoned dry orgasmers, they should ejaculate at the end of every session or the next day. Also, keep in mind you should not always dry orgasm. Having normal masturbation or sex that doesn’t involve dry orgasming at all is highly recommended. Mix it up!

If you had a dry orgasm and you feel a sort of preassure or fatigue in your testicles,  and if you are hard enough to ejaculate, you should. This will decrease the fatigue or eventual pain (the “blue balls”).

6) Why is This So Long and Complicated? It’s Just a Kegel Hold at the Right Time, Right?

The simple answer to this question is — to protect you. An alarming amount of people will try to perform a dry orgasm when they are not conditioned enough. This can sometimes lead to injury. Because of this, most later on become uninterested and don’t see the point of dry orgams. This especially happens when they didn’t perform it right. Who’s to blame them? This guide was written to make dry orgasms as easy as it can be.

There are two  more reasons this is so long:

  • To make you confident. By dry orgasming the right way the first, second or even third time, you will gain confidence in your sexual ability. Now you will always have some foundation to go back to. It might not sound like much right now, but once you have had your clean dry orgasm, you will find yourself agreeing.
  • To condition you. Dry orgasm is for many an entry point for MMO. By learning how to do this the right way, you open the door to many advanced experiences. Many of them will come naturally later on. Even for premature ejaculation problems, this way of conditioning will make you well-prepared to utilize any premature ejaculation techniques, with a much better understanding and ability than a beginner.

Do not fool yourself! MMO requires A LOT OF WORK AND DEDICATION. Some might be lucky or innate and be able to achieve this with little to no problems, but for most it isn’t that easy.

7) The Importance of Feedback

In order for this guide to be validated further, user feedback is of utmost importance. This means if you are reading this guide and using material from it, you should return the favor by posting here and telling us/me your opinion about it and even more importantly your experiences. In this way, I can make this guide even better, and you are helping others the way I may have helped you.

Even though I have tried my best to cover all the bases, this is nearly impossible without feedback. Some things I may have forgotten to mention and others may not have even occurred to me.

8) The Responsibility

Even though this guide tries its best to warn you (probably much more than is needed) and, via exercises and preparation, tries to protect you from any injuries and accidents that may happen, you and you alone bear the responsibility for attempting exercises, techniques and methods that are described in this guide. Attempt all of this at your own risk.